When my marriage ended very suddenly in 2008, it felt like the end of the world. I had no idea what to do. We had two small children, and I found myself facing an uncertain future. Over the following days, weeks and months, I experienced a roller coaster of raw emotions – including anger, fear, hurt, confusion, panic, shock, sadness. I felt overwhelmed at times, and the first few weeks are a blur, even now. At first, I felt as though the separation and divorce was happening to me, that I was no longer in control. However, I realised I didn't want to be a victim of divorce. I did not want my divorce to define me, and I wanted to feel happy again. I wanted to do more than simply survive; I wanted to rediscover who I was, and create a new life in which I and my children could fly.
I came to see that my divorce was actually a fantastic opportunity to redefine myself, learn more about who I am, and create a new and shiny future, with me in control of my life - like a dragonfly emerging from its shell, to soar with outstretched wings shimmering in the sun. I have rebuilt my life from scratch, and on the way, I have found more inner confidence and strength than I ever believed possible. My children are settled and happy, and I am immensely proud of how I handled my separation and divorce.
The night my marriage ended was a turning point in my life - it was the night I began to wake up, and it was the catalyst that has led me to where I am now. I don’t want anyone else to have to go through this alone. I want to help you to find the opportunities your break up gives you, so that you too can feel proud when you look back.
This is why I am passionate about helping others to travel their own path to happiness after divorce.